I have people and situations that come to mind when I read this, people I love. With each one, I care deeply so I struggle with wanting to fix the situation, feeling helpless at times, I am a fixer. Sometimes I’ve felt hurt, misunderstood, like I can’t get my point across and tell them all the reasons I am right and they are …. yeah. B reminds me I don’t have to do that. He’ll say “What will that resolve? It’s not about you. It’s not even about the situation, this is just what they’re using to distract from what’s really going on with them.” Good ol’ B.
I really am coming to realize more with time that other’s reactions and actions or the way they treat us are not always about us. They have something going on in their life, in their hearts, they have a plate that’s full of all kinds of things and we’re actually not always on their plate. We might just be the person they throw it at to help them in the moment. And we just have to learn to duck and dodge.
I just encourage all of us to…
We can only juggle our own plates and wash our own dishes, and Lord knows I’ve got plenty of those. And we can be there when other’s plates are flying. And maybe some day, we’ll all sit down together and share a meal on the very plates we’re all juggling today. One can only hope.
Over here learning to duck and dodge… which is not graceful, just sayin’,
xoxo,
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